The things we want to be disciplined at are actually fairly simple in a lot of ways, writes Leo Babauta.
We want to be consistent with the journaling habit, or meditation, or writing? Just start, as simply as possible. Do that again the next day. If you miss a day, no problem — just start again. Over and over.
All of the problems of habits start to go away when we drop expectations. We can start to appreciate doing the habit, in this moment, instead of being so concerned with how it will turn out in the future.
It’s very simple, when we drop the expectations.
A daily writing habit becomes as simple as picking up the writing tool and doing it, without any expectation that it be any good or that people love it.
Of course, we have all kinds of hangups when it comes to writing, or anything else. These come from years of beating ourselves up (or getting judged by others, and internalizing those judgments). We can stop beating ourselves up the moment we drop expectations. Then, without the layers of self-judgment, we can simply get writing.
Every time we “fail” at a habit, we get discouraged. Because of expectations. What if we dropped any expectation that we be perfect at it, and just return to doing the habit at the earliest opportunity? Over and over again.
It all becomes exceedingly simple, once we can drop expectations. And if we become fully present, it can even be joyful! The joy of being in the moment, doing something meaningful.
Read the whole thing at Zen Habits.